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Divorce mediation can work even if you can't be in the same room

Emotions often run high during a divorce. The person you once loved more than anyone else could be the last person you want to see or speak to now. If you don't have a prenuptial agreement and can't seem to come to terms for an uncontested divorce, you may have already resigned yourself to the necessity of a protracted court-based divorce.

For many couples headed for divorce in New Jersey, mediation could still be a valid option. Even if you don't think that you and your spouse could sit in the same room to calmly negotiate, it is possible for mediation to work. If you are both willing to compromise in order to find a solution, that could mean a faster and less expensive end to your marriage.

Mediation doesn't always require direct communication

Mediation involves you and your spouse, along with your individual attorneys, sitting down with a mediator to find amicable compromises on the major issues in your divorce. However, you don't actually need to be on speaking terms with your spouse to make mediation work.

In higher conflict situations, a mediator can serve as a bridge of communication between you and your attorney, and your spouse and his or her attorney. You can actually remain in separate rooms while the mediator moves back and forth, thus limiting your need to directly interact with your spouse during mediation.

So long as you are both willing to compromise in some areas and commit to find workable solutions for your divorce, mediation can work. Although it may move more quickly if you're willing to sit down face to face, being able to do so isn't a requirement of modern mediation.

Mediation can empower you both to move on

One of the most difficult things about divorce is how long it takes. Even without children, a court-based divorce can leave you and your spouse simmering in resentment for weeks or months. Going to court can feel like going to battle, and you both could end up focusing on the negative aspects of your past, instead of the positive options for your future.

Mediation provides you with an opportunity to forego the protracted court proceedings associated with a New Jersey divorce. That can mean eliminating the need to go through that emotional battle. If you don't have to reflect on all the issues of your marriage in depth, it may make it easier to strive for a clean break and a fresh start.

Using mediation to resolve issues in your divorce can help you both move past the issues of your marriage. You can focus on the resolution of these issues, as well as the hope for a better future once everything has been resolved.

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