Although you may assume that your divorce case will eventually end up in court, you shouldn't overlook the power of mediation.
Through divorce mediation, you can work closely with a mediator and your soon-to-be ex-spouse to ensure that every last detail is in order before you proceed.
Yes, there will be times when you face challenges. And yes, it can be difficult to get along with the other person during this time. Even so, it's something you need to do if you finally want to move on with your life.
Have you set the right goals?
Just the same as anything else in your life, if you want to succeed with divorce mediation, you need to set goals. Doing so will put you on the right path to success, even if it takes you some time.
Here are some of the most common goals associated with divorce mediation:
- To avoid the expense that is often associated with litigation
- To avoid the stress and trauma that typically accompanies a court case
- To minimize hostility, which allows you to better co-parent in the future (should you have a child with the person)
- To create an equitable agreement that suits both individuals
We don't have the same goals
This is a common complaint, as most divorcing couples are at odds on a few very important details.
For example, both of you may want to remain in the family home. Or maybe both of you will fight for physical custody of your child.
Even though there will be disagreements, the point of mediation is to work through these in an efficient and effective manner. There is a good chance you will have to compromise along the way, but doing so allows you to eventually move forward.
Even if you are confident that the divorce mediation process is not designed for someone like yourself, you should still put everything you have into making it work.
Once you get started, you may begin to realize that you're in position to work through all of your disagreements. If the process stalls and neither individual is willing to budge, your case will make its way to the court system. At that point, you lose some control over the process, as the judge is staffed with making key decisions.