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Mediation can help you focus on the kids during custody disputes

If you plan to divorce the other parent of your children, the fact that you don't agree on custody terms is unsurprising. What might surprise you, however, is the fact that you don't have to battle it out with your ex in court to get the parenting plan handled in your New Jersey divorce.

In fact, choosing not to go through a contentious, litigated divorce may be a better option for your whole family, including the kids. Mediation could allow you more control over the outcome of the custody arrangements and help ensure that you and your ex keep things focused on your kids while you create the parenting plan that will guide you both after the divorce.

The focus in custody negotiations should be the best interest of the children

All too often, divorcing parents see custody disagreements as an area where they can potentially "win" in a divorce. The truth is, when you focus on winning over what is best for your kids, no one wins. Your children will struggle more with a contentious divorce if they know their parents are fighting over custody. You will also experience more stress and incur more expense by going through court.

Ideally, you and your ex can put aside all of your negative feelings toward one another to work toward a parenting plan that focuses on what your kids need. Typically, your kids will need structure that remains similar between both homes. They will also need positive relationships with both of their parents. Mediation allows you and your ex to find terms that will work for everyone in the custody arrangement related to your divorce.

A mediator can help you find reasonable compromises

Custody issues can often become protracted battles, especially because parents tend to get emotional when considering time and relationship with their children. Thankfully, mediation can help you sidestep this potential pitfall by encouraging you and your ex to work together.

Both you and your spouse will have your own individual attorney to represent your best interests. The mediator can facilitate compromise between what you want, what your ex wants and what you know your children need. Committing to mediation means really working to find solutions that will benefit your children and received the approval of the courts after mediation.

Your attorney and the mediator can help ensure that your custody terms and parenting plan meet the requirements and standards of the New Jersey family courts. When you choose to go through mediation, you will have more power over the eventual outcome of the divorce. The mediation process can also help you and your ex find common ground for your future co-parenting relationship.

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