Cipriano Law Offices, P.C.

Call 973-852-3346

Develop a workable parenting plan in mediation instead of court

One of the most difficult and frustrating aspects of divorce is how it impacts the relationship between parent and child. Emotional outbursts and shifting dynamics are quite common. The changes that come with divorce often force parents to reflect carefully on both their relationship with their children and their parenting style.

Instead of letting yourself feel overwhelmed or distressed by the implications of the divorce on your parental relationship with your children, you can view it as an opportunity. You can now consciously make decisions that will make you a better parent. In fact, you can work with your ex in mediation to come to mutual terms that can help you both be better parents after you end your marriage.

Developing a good parenting plan requires setting standards for yourself and the children

A good parenting plan is a thorough parenting plan. You shouldn't leave future issues to chance. Instead, you should take great pains to ensure that you address all foreseeable future issues that could arise regarding custody and the needs of your children in the next few years.

Obviously, your parenting plan will outline how you and your ex divide time with your children. There are a variety of potential schedules, any of which may work better than others given your employment and family situations. However, you need to include more than just vacation scheduling rules in your parenting plan.

You should also have household rules that apply universally to the children, regardless of where they are. These rules should include how late they can stay out, what grades the parents expect them to earn and other important issues. The parents will also want to outline how they handle things like discipline and conflicts between themselves. The more thorough the parenting plan you create, the less likely you are to have issues because of conflicting opinions in the future.

Mediation is the perfect place to set terms for a thorough parenting plan

It is common for parents to struggle with the terms of a parenting plan. Even during marriage, it is unlikely that you agreed on all issues regarding how to parent your child. Instead of letting the courts set the terms for you and your New Jersey divorce, you can take control over the outcome of your custody proceedings by agreeing to mediate with your spouse.

Mediation can help you find terms for custody and develop a parenting plan that will work for your family. You can negotiate and find resolutions that will benefit everyone in your family with the help of your personal legal counsel and the facilitation of a professional mediator.

Mediation can make it possible to agree on terms and file an uncontested divorce. Additionally, mediation can help shield your kids from the emotional drama that often attends litigated divorces in court.

No Comments

Leave a comment
Comment Information
  • Best Readers Choice Awards Of Essex | 2018
  • IACP | International Academy of Collaborative Professionals NAFLA | Top Ten Rating | 2014
  •  Super lawyer | Melissa Cipriano
  • Super lawyer | Top 100 | New Jersey
  • Super lawyer | Top 50 Women | New Jersey
  • 10 Best 2016 | Client Satisfaction | 10 Best Female Attorney
  • Avvo Rating 10.0 | Superb | Top Attorney Divorce Avvo | Client choice 2015 | Divorce

Melissa Cipriano: Honored as a "Best of New Jersey Among our Most Distinguished Americans of Italian Descent" and conferred the "Stivale D'Italia Award of Excellence" by the Italian Tribune for her "honesty, integrity and dedication to fair and ethical business practices" and her "outstanding reputation as a Woman Whose Word is Her Bond".

*See methodology for inclusion at the websites listed: Super Lawyers, NAFLA, AIOFLA, and AVVO. No aspect of this advertisement has been approved by the Supreme Court of New Jersey.

Email Us For A Response

Contact Cipriano Law Offices, P.C.

To learn more about our Essex County divorce and family lawyers, you may email us or call 973-852-3346 to schedule an initial consultation.

Bold labels are required.

Contact Information

The use of the Internet or this form for communication with the firm or any individual member of the firm does not establish an attorney-client relationship. Confidential or time-sensitive information should not be sent through this form.


Privacy Policy

This site uses Google's Invisible reCAPTCHA, which is subject to Google's Privacy Policy and Terms of Use.


175 Fairfield Avenue
Suite 4C/D
West Caldwell, NJ 07006

Toll Free: 800-646-0731
Phone: 973-852-3346
Fax: 973-403-8610
West Caldwell Law Office Map

Make a Payment