Most people understand that divorce can have a profound, typically negative, impact on minor children from the marriage. That knowledge could keep parents who would be happier if divorced in a non-functional marriage out of a sense of obligation. Thankfully, there are other ways to reduce the impact of a divorce on children without staying unhappily married.
For many families facing an impending divorce, the biggest concern is the impact on the children. Studies make it clear that divorce can have a negative impact on children, affecting their emotional, social and even physical health. The more contentious and drawn-out your divorce becomes, the more likely it is that your children will experience negative consequences.
It is not often people hear that a celebrity divorce is finalized within a few months. People in New Jersey may be surprised that the divorce of Blake Anderson and Rachael Finley was concluded within six months. It is not clear whether they reached settlement agreements on their own or through mediation, which is becoming the chosen method of divorce for many.
New Jersey has taken unusual steps in recent years to reduce the pressure on the court system. One of the most upsetting for many unhappily married couples is the stay placed on divorces in Passaic and Essex Counties. For couples with marital homes in either county, obtaining a divorce may not be an option for the foreseeable future.
When you have to go through a divorce, you might feel combative or like you want to stall. Maybe you don't feel you're taken seriously or that you'll get anywhere without putting your foot down. Whatever your situation is, it doesn't help to stall your divorce.
Until local divorce courts ease the restrictions on divorce proceedings, many people worry that they may have to simply live in marriages that are dysfunctional, at best, and dangerous, at worst. It is easy to feel trapped and helpless when legal avenues for dissolving a marriage are hard to come by.
You're getting divorced for a reason. It could have been substance abuse, infidelity or just your ability to relate to your partner degrading over time. Whatever the cause, chances are that you and your spouse don't agree on everything about divorcing. That can mean that feel like you have no option but to go through the courts. With a stay on divorce proceedings in many areas across New Jersey, that could leave you feeling trapped in an unhappy marriage.
Divorce is hard on everyone in the family, no matter their age. This is particularly true for children, who don't get a choice in the matter. Children may feel like they should choose a parent. They may be emotionally exhausted from dealing with two angry, stressed out parents. The last thing a child going through divorce needs is to testify against one of their parents or to choose sides in a courtroom. If you and your former spouse choose mediation for your divorce instead of a court battle with no real winners, you can minimize the emotional impact your divorce will have on your children.
Now that you know for certain that your marriage is over, you might be dreading having to deal with child custody issues. The thought of a stranger making decisions for your child might make you uncomfortable. There is another option - mediation. This process involves you and your ex-husband working together to create the child custody agreement.
There is a great saying that every divorce attorney should impart to his or her clients: "Keep your eyes on the prize." This saying is an excellent way to keep everyone focused on their core goals during divorce mediation. Couples can avoid the courtroom and get their marriage behind them as quickly, cost-effectively and peacefully as possible.