Going through a divorce is difficult for some people and relatively painless and freeing for others. For those who struggle, it often takes a physical, financial and emotional toll. Everyone has different ways of coping with a divorce and processing their emotions.

One divorced woman wrote a helpful blog for the Huffington Post with suggestions and advice stemming from her post-divorce discovery and development. She wrote that she took up hobbies that she had put on hold during the course of her marriage. In the wake of divorce, she indulged in good food, reading, writing and playing sports. These activities made her feel mentally strong and happy.

What she said helped her get an even better handle on herself was accepting that her divorce was happening. Once she got into a place of acceptance, she was then really able to move forward. She said she wrote her own mantra and chose to live by it each day.

Keeping a journal for one’s thoughts and feeling during the divorce can also be very cathartic. Writing became a great outlet for this woman. After her divorce, she got a laptop and began writing once again – something she had stopped doing because her husband never appreciated it.

If you are in New Jersey and are considering a divorce, know that it is not the end of the world as it is often portrayed to be. Getting out of an unhealthy relationship can instigate a journey of self-discovery and growth that, when treated positively, can cause those beginning the process to flourish and thrive.

Source: The Huffington Post, “The Wise Words That Helped Me Survive My Divorce,” Elizabeth Denham, Jan. 12, 2014