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When New Jersey parents divorce, their kids maight struggle

Every new Jersey family is unique although some have a lot in common. For instance, many households in this state and others include parents who hare currently preparing for divorce proceedings. Most good parents are highly concerned about their children's well-being and will want to keep several issues in mind that often negatively affect kids whose parents decide to go their separate ways in life.

No matter how thorough a parent might be in explaining divorce to his or her children, it is not uncommon for kids to suffer severe anxiety at the thought of no longer having both parents under the same roof. Many children internalize their parents' marital problems; they blame themselves and, therefore, feel responsible for trying to fix things. Kids who feel this way may show symptoms of irritability or moodiness as they try to adapt to a new lifestyle.

Pittsburgh Steelers' wide receiver seeking child custody in court

Most NFL fans in New Jersey and across the country are familiar with Antonio Brown. The 30-year-old wide receiver for the Steelers is often in the limelight. This year, he has been the subject of much controversy, first regarding an incident where he supposedly had an altercation with the team's quarterback, then regarding personal problems that have led to a child custody petition in court.

Brown is currently seeking custody of his daughter. Some time ago, the child's mother filed a police report alleging domestic violence against Brown. However, his attorney adamantly stated that there was no merit to her accusations and that she quickly recanted her statement, knowing that she had no legal reason nor permission for being at Brown's residence at the time. 

Protect your rights regarding domestic violence charges

New Jersey law prioritizes family safety. Sadly, many households include incidents of domestic violence. It is also true, however, that allegations of violence against a spouse or other family member are not always true. The court is tasked with determining the truth on a case-by-case basis.

If you believe you or your child are in danger of physical or emotional abuse in your current living situation at home, it is always a good idea to reach out for immediate legal support. A family law attorney who is experienced in advocating on behalf of domestic abuse victims can provide guidance and support as you determine a best course of action to protect your rights, your children's best interests and, perhaps, your lives. In situations of divorce, a threat to children's safety often prompts the court to order supervised visitation only or even to prohibit a particular parent's contact with children.

Alexis Bellino addressed several issues in her divorce

When New Jersey spouses want to end their marriages, a number of decisions must be made, especially if they have children. Details such as child custody, visitation, property division, spousal support and other issues must be worked out. Former reality TV star Allexis Bellino recently achieved a divorce settlement that addressed several of these topics.

Bellino and her former husband Jim agreed to a shared custody arrangement for their three children. The court ordered the kids' father to pay $2,000 per child in monthly support payments. He must also provide $10,000 per month in spousal support.

Why opt for mediation over going to court?

Divorce has long-lasting affects on those involved, especially if the couple in question has children. Many concerned parents in New Jersey want to do whatever they can to avoid confrontation and settle their differences in as amicable a fashion as possible. Those who are willing to peacefully discuss each topic of importance may want to use mediation to achieve a settlement rather than go to court.

This process often takes less time than litigation and may be more cost-effective as well. Many parents want to avoid the business-like environment of a courtroom. A mediated divorce allows them to come together in a private setting and allow a mediator to help them focus on their needs and children's best interests.

Divorce is becoming increasingly common among baby boomers

New Jersey residents born between 1946 and 1964 are part of the baby boomer generation. Cultural landmarks of this generation include a passion for rock and roll, slogans about making love not war and an overall free-spirited energy that influenced young adults through the 1960s and 70s. Now that baby boomers are ages 54 and beyond, they have added another common factor to their life experiences: divorce.

The divorce rate among baby boomers has more than doubled in the past 20 years. While every situation is unique, many older couples cite similar reasons for deciding to end a marriage. Infidelity, financial disputes and spouses feeling as though they no longer have anything in common are some of the most frequent reasons given.

Keep this helpful tip in mind regarding your child custody plan

When New Jersey parents get divorced, they no doubt understand that their decisions are going to have a significant impact on their children's lives. Thankfully, there are typically many community resources available to help parents and children cope with divorce and successfully adapt to new lifestyles. Sometimes, parents may unwittingly impede the process, especially if they use their children as messengers regarding child custody issues because they don't want to talk to each other.

Married couples do not end their relationships for no good reason. In most cases, spouses have encountered serious problems that they are unable to resolve, which can leave emotional scars. It can also cause a spouse to want to avoid contact with his or her ex as much as possible.

Amazon CEO preparing for $137 billion divorce

Jeff Bezos is the 54-year-old founder of Amazon. He recently tweeted that he and his wife, MacKenzie, have decided to divorce. Many news followers in New Jersey and beyond are projecting that it will be the most expensive marital breakup in history.

Two issues that often complicate cases like the Bezos situation are marriage longevity and high-net worth assets. Bezos and his wife have been married 25 years. The longer a couple is married, the more assets they typically acquire, thus adding to the challenge of property division proceedings. In this state, the court operates under equitable property distribution guidelines, which means a judge overseeing a particular case has full discretion to determine a fair division of all marital assets and liabilities.

Protecting your children's emotions in a New Jersey divorce

Divorce is usually very hard on the people divorcing, but it can also cause a lot of strain for any children in the family. In fact, a parental divorce can seem incredibly destabilizing to young children. A divorce can disrupt their emotional stability, sense of identity and concept of social order.

It may even require some counseling for children to work through their emotions. Some emotional upheaval is inevitable in a divorce, but much of the worst impact potentially caused by divorce can be avoided if parents commit to putting their children first.

More judges ruling on pet issues as custody matters in divorce

Every New Jersey couple who files papers to end a marriage brings a unique set of circumstances to the court's attention. Divorce proceedings never unfold the exact same way twice, as each relationship is unique and though similar issues may exist between two sets of spouses, it does not necessarily mean the two outcomes will be the same. A particularly complicated issue involves pets.

Pets are technically property; however, several states have adopted laws or statutes that address pet disputes in divorce as custody issues rather than topics for property division proceedings. Because of the unique nature of a relationship between a pet and its owner, some states have allowed spouses to petition the court for custody of a dog, cat or other animal when a marital break-up occurs. A case in one state, in fact, involved a woman who hired an attorney to fight for custody of a dog she said her spouse had given to her as a Christmas gift but was trying to take from her when they divorced.

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