If you’ve been trying to get a divorce in Passaic County, the current stay on divorce proceedings in the county probably has you feeling perplexed and confused. Not only are you dealing with the emotional turmoil that naturally comes with any kind of romantic breakup, but now you’re wondering if you can move forward with your breakup at all.

Fortunately, you can still complete your divorce — if you and your soon-to-be-ex are able to work together toward a mutually-agreed-upon divorce settlement. This may be achievable through the mediation process.

Are you skeptical about whether mediation is right for you?

Mediation is a viable strategy to resolve your divorce quickly, cost-effectively and without the usual stresses and fights that can come during traditional court proceedings. However, if you’re going to succeed at mediation, you’ll need to adopt an optimistic perspective.

One recently published book seeks to help you stay on the sunny side during your divorce. The book, titled “The Optimist’s Guide to Divorce: How to Get Through Your Breakup and Create a New Life You Love,” offers insight to help even people separate from their spouses with an excellent attitude and grace. It even claims to help those whose divorces are the most heart-wrenching experiences of their lives.

The authors of the book say that they’re challenging the idea that divorce is the worst thing that can happen to someone. In the end, the authors say that divorcees and their children will continue their lives and eventually thrive if they “do the work.”

Having a positive attitude will definitely carry through into your mediation process. It’s the spouses who tend to be overly suspicious and distrustful of one another who can quickly descend into arguments and send a potentially successful mediation process into a tailspin.

Try to be positive: You may not have a choice

For spouses who are navigating their breakups in Passaic County, and other New Jersey counties where the divorce stay is in effect, reading “The Optimist’s Guide to Divorce” could be helpful to ensure your mediation process moves forward smoothly and effectively. A skilled and experienced divorce attorney will also do wonders for helping you stay realistic, diplomatic and practical while shepherding your divorce toward a favorable conclusion.