When New Jersey parents get divorced, they no doubt understand that their decisions are going to have a significant impact on their children’s lives. Thankfully, there are typically many community resources available to help parents and children cope with divorce and successfully adapt to new lifestyles. Sometimes, parents may unwittingly impede the process, especially if they use their children as messengers regarding child custody issues because they don’t want to talk to each other.
Married couples do not end their relationships for no good reason. In most cases, spouses have encountered serious problems that they are unable to resolve, which can leave emotional scars. It can also cause a spouse to want to avoid contact with his or her ex as much as possible.
The problem is that parents of the same children will always have a relationship even if that relationship is no longer carried out in a marital context. In short, like it or not, parents must communicate with each other regarding their children. Children often suffer emotionally when parents divorce; if mom or dad keeps using the kids as messengers in order to avoid talking to the other parent, it can intensify the stress that children are already feeling.
New Jersey parents do well to remember that children are not responsible for their child custody plans. Adult matters are best kept between adults. If a particular problem arises that prompts legal complications, a concerned parent can turn to an experienced family law attorney for support, keeping in mind that an attorney is able to communicate on a parent’s behalf in court.