Many couples prefer divorce mediation over litigation. For one reason, they are able to control the outcome themselves rather than having to adhere to the decisions of a judge.
However, mediation has grown in popularity because the benefits do not stop there.
Mediation basics
Mediation takes place outside of court and no judge will be present. You and your spouse will meet with a mediator, a neutral third party who will provide guidance as you work to create a divorce settlement agreement that is satisfactory to you both. The mediator will not take sides but will provide access to legal information and suggest resolutions to any sticking points that develop.
Short-term advantages
In New Jersey, as in many other states, court calendars are full. There is also a shortage of judges, which means that delays in a court proceeding such as divorce are common. On the other hand, mediation is a process that can take place according to the schedules of the parties and their mediator.
Benefits to expect
In addition to being able to control the outcome of your divorce negotiations, you can expect mediation to take far less time than litigation and, accordingly, it is less expensive. Many couples appreciate the privacy and confidentiality. Mediation is also proven to be less stressful for everyone concerned, especially the children of the marriage. The focus of the process is on open communication. Once couples become used to this, they find it is an ability that is especially useful for maintaining good family relationships in a post-divorce world.