If you get divorced during the school year – there is usually a spike in divorce filings in August, after all – then you may wonder if you should tell your child’s new teacher. There is no legal requirement to tell them, of course. But are there any benefits to doing so?
There are some benefits, though every situation is unique. Here are a few reasons you may want to tell the teacher or other school administrators.
The pickup schedule
First off, you want to be very clear about who is allowed to pick your child up from school. Is it just you or your spouse? What about grandparents or babysitters? What if one of you gets into a new relationship and wants your new partner to pick up the child?
The child’s behavior
Next, divorce can sometimes affect a child’s behavior at school. Small children may be more emotional and could lash out unexpectedly or withdraw from the class. Older children may become apathetic about their work or see their grades suffer. It can help if the teacher knows why.
A support system
Finally, the teacher may end up being part of the child’s support system, especially in elementary. If the child needs to vent or ask questions or generally just talk about what is going on at home, the teacher is a likely target for that conversation. The more they know about what’s actually going on at home, the better.
Divorce can certainly grow complex, as can related issues, such as where your child goes to school after the divorce or who can pick them up. As a parent in this situation, be sure you are well aware of your legal rights and options.