You have reached a decision. You want a divorce. Maybe you are certain it is the correct decision, or perhaps you are not quite sure.
If you are unsure, it is good to have some ways to check whether you are making the right decision or whether informing your partner will be something you regret. Here are a few ways to do this:
Is there abuse?
If your spouse is abusive, then there is a high chance divorce is the correct decision. People rarely just stop their abusive behavior, so unless they recognize they have a problem and get help to sort it out, it’s probably wise to move forward.
There is no longer communication
Marriages often have issues, but you can’t resolve them without communication. If one or both of you have checked out and are no longer willing or able to communicate with each other, it’s usually a sign things have reached the stage of no return.
You’ve already tried counselling or therapy
Sometimes, a suitably qualified third party can help a couple work through their problems and keep their marriage intact. If you have already tried such options without success, then there is probably not much else you can do to improve the situation other than proceed with filing.
You just don’t want to be married anymore
Many people make the decision to divorce from a bad place. They can be swayed by their emotions and the stress of the situation. Yet, if you are making this decision from a good place, then there is less chance anything is affecting your decision other than the genuine desire to end the marriage.
Learning more about how divorce will work can help you understand how best to proceed.