Divorce issues often impact more individuals than just the couple seeking to dissolve the marriage. Children are especially vulnerable to facing considerable changes and emotional distress Due to child custody proceedings. As a result, many New Jersey parents may want to ensure that they work to make their children more comfortable.

A common thought that many children have after divorce is whether their parents may expect them to choose sides. One way that parents may help children avoid such an scenario is by not saying bad things about their ex spouse. By allowing children to ask questions and talk about their other parent, custodial parents can help children retain their happy memories of the time before the divorce.

Similarly, parents may want to continue going places with children that they went before the divorce. If a parent begins avoiding places because those places remind him or her of the ex spouse, children may not fully understand and become overwhelmed. By visiting familiar places, they may be able to feel a sense of stability though things are changing.

Of course, one of the first major steps in making children feel more comfortable after divorce is ensuring that child custody terms are best for the children. New Jersey parents may want to consider joint custody if they believe that it would be beneficial. Alternatively, they can decide which parent may be more adept at being the custodial parent. In any case, parents may find information on child custody proceedings helpful in determining what choices may be best their their family. 

Source: eastidahonews.com, “How (and why) to stop divorce from ruining your kids’ happy memories“, Gary and Joy Lundberg, Sept. 14, 2015