Co-parents need to communicate effectively about child-related matters. This can help them avoid conflicts that may negatively impact their relationship. You and your co-parent should discuss communication when handling other co-parenting matters.
Here are three things to discuss:
What to communicate
You should agree to only discuss coparenting issues. Talking about your divorce or new relationships can result in emotions that can affect your co-parenting. In addition to setting this boundary, agree on what should be shared. Details about the child’s health, school and behavior should be communicated. You need to keep each other updated about crucial child-related details.
How to communicate
Co-parents can use different modes to communicate. You can meet in person or communicate via phone calls, email and text messages.
If you are comfortable meeting in person, you can do so, especially when discussing sensitive topics. In-person communication can help reduce misunderstandings, as you can ask for clarification and receive an immediate response while observing your co-parent’s nonverbal cues.
If you are not comfortable with in-person conversations, consider using phone calls. You can also use phone calls during emergencies. Written communication, such as email and text messages, is great for record-keeping. Further, different apps for co-parents exist. You can use them to communicate and share documents.
When to communicate
Agree on when to communicate so each of you can be prepared. Choose days that work for both of you. Exchange days also offer an opportunity to share information.
How often you decide to communicate can depend on your child’s age and needs. The frequency of communication may need to be higher if you have a toddler or a child with special needs.
It’s possible for co-parents to communicate effectively. If your co-parent is uncooperative, legal guidance can help you protect your child’s interests.