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Tips for divorce mediation with an overbearing spouse

On Behalf of | Nov 1, 2023 | Mediation

Statistica reported the divorce rate in New Jersey as of 2019 was 2.5 per 1,000 people. These divorces likely did not all resolve in the same manner. There are various choices as to go about the process.

One option is divorce mediation. While it can be a very beneficial process, it can be challenging if you are dealing with an overbearing spouse. It can help to learn some strategies for navigating the process.

Choose a skilled mediator

The mediator’s role is to facilitate communication and guide the process. It is essential to select a skilled mediator who has experience in handling high-conflict situations and can maintain a balanced atmosphere during the sessions.

Set clear ground rules

Establish clear ground rules for the mediation process from the beginning. Ensure that both you and your spouse understand the expectations for behavior, communication and decision-making during the sessions.

Prepare thoroughly

Prior to each mediation session, make sure you have all the necessary documentation and information. This can help keep discussions on track and minimize opportunities for your spouse’s behavior to disrupt the process.

Stay calm and patient

When your spouse becomes overbearing, you need to remain calm and patient. Avoid reacting emotionally to their behavior, and instead, focus on the issues at hand. A composed demeanor can help diffuse tension.

Use active listening

Practice active listening during the mediation sessions. This means genuinely paying attention to your spouse’s concerns and emotions. Acknowledging their perspective can make them feel heard and may lead to more constructive discussions.

Maintain boundaries

Setting and maintaining personal boundaries is vital in dealing with an overbearing spouse. Politely but firmly express your need for respectful communication and adherence to the mediation process’s rules.

Divorce mediation is an ongoing process, and it may take multiple sessions to reach a resolution. Stay committed to the process, even if it feels challenging. Consistency and perseverance can lead to successful outcomes.


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